Written by Lesallan – June 26, 2023
That is a complex question that may not have a simple answer. People may be arrogant and selfish for different reasons, such as low self-esteem, lack of empathy, hyper-capitalist mentality, entitlement, or self-protection. It could also be inherited family traits such as narcissism. These reasons may stem from their personal experiences, beliefs, values, or goals. According to a study by Konrath et al. (2013), narcissism has increased among college students in the US over the past three decades. For example, some students may cheat on exams, lie on their resumes, or bully their peers to gain an advantage or boost their ego.
However, not everyone is arrogant and selfish. Many people are kind, generous, compassionate, and humble. They may have different perspectives on life, such as interrelatedness, gratitude, altruism, or growth mindset. These people may also face challenges and difficulties but respond with empathy and positivity. A survey by the Pew Research Center (2019) found that 58% of Americans say they often feel a sense of gratitude or thankfulness. For example, some people may volunteer at a soup kitchen, donate to a charity, or help a stranger in need without expecting anything in return.
This writer thinks people are arrogant and selfish because they view themselves and others differently. They may think they are superior or more deserving than others or must compete for limited resources or attention. They may also lack the ability to empathize with other people’s feelings and needs or appreciate life’s diversity and complexity. They may be unaware of the consequences of their actions, or they may rationalize them as justified or necessary. A theory by Keltner et al. (2003) suggests that power can impair social cognition and empathy. For example, some politicians may abuse their authority, ignore the public interest, or violate human rights to pursue their own agenda or benefit.
Further, the thought is that people can change their behavior if they are willing to learn and grow. They can develop more self-awareness, self-compassion, and self-regulation. They can also cultivate more empathy, gratitude, and generosity. They can challenge their assumptions and biases and seek feedback and guidance from others. They can also recognize the value and interdependence of all living beings and strive to contribute to the common good. A review by Brown et al. (2012) highlights the benefits of mindfulness-based interventions for enhancing well-being and reducing psychological distress. For example, some people may practice meditation, yoga, or journaling to become more mindful of their thoughts, emotions, and actions and how they affect themselves and others.
In conclusion, people are arrogant and selfish for various reasons that may be influenced by their personality, environment, culture, or situation. However, this does not mean that they cannot change or improve themselves. By adopting a more open-minded, compassionate, and mindful attitude, they can become more aware of their own and others’ feelings and needs and act in ways that are respectful, helpful, and constructive.
~Lesallan – June 26, 2023
: Konrath S., Meier B.P., Bushman B.J., 2014. Development and validation of the single item narcissism scale (SINS). PLoS One 9(8): e103469.
: Pew Research Center, 2019. Feeling gratitude in America: How Americans describe what makes them feel thankful.
: Keltner D., Gruenfeld D.H., Anderson C., 2003. Power, approach, and inhibition. Psychological Review 110(2): 265-284.
: Brown K.W., Ryan R.M., Creswell J.D., 2012. Mindfulness: Theoretical foundations and evidence for its salutary effects. Psychological Inquiry 18(4): 211-237.
